The gleam in your eyes can’t be ignored when your girl makes a claim, ‘I know you more than you’. But then, there is also an underlying grin to that gleam.
‘Really’- that’s what you say to yourself. Well, sure your girl doesn’t know it all. And she doesn’t know it all because you don’t show it all. Every man has his own secrets he would never let a woman know. There are things a man is afraid of caught doing by his woman:
Cry
No man seriously would want to cry in front of a woman, for whatever reason. Not because crying makes him look like the most ugly thing on the world, or because the sound he makes while crying is simply not bearable but because crying really degrades a man. More so when a woman is around! Do not even think about it! look at the guy!
Show they are broke!
There is no argument about this, at least he will concoct a reason why his wallet is empty. Now with mobile money and ATM cards in the mix. The excuses will come in all angles: “i have money on my ATM card” when the guy is Wandegeya, he will say he banks with FINA Bank yet the ATM card has the Equity Logo! And the ones that have no ATM excuse will simply say there is no net work for Mobile Money when you try to insist they use Warid pesa, guy will simply tell you he is not on Warid, forgetting he asked you to give him the warid number instead of MTN on the first date.
Emotions-
Although most women appreciate a man who can express his emotions, men can't fathom that to be true. They are afraid of women's, so they assume women will not want to see theirs, either. This is completely untrue. Sure, women want a strong man, but they don't equate emotion with weakness. Therein lies the confusion.
Financial Failure-
Since the days that men were the hunters and gatherers for their women and children, they have had it bred into them that they must provide sufficiently for their women and children. One of men's greatest fears is that they will not be able to do this, becoming (at least in their own eyes) financial failures.
Show that they are not ahead in Technology!
Bring all sorts of things; complex phones, computers, new cars, and the rest! I witnessed serious drama one time when a guy vibed a lady and asked for the telephone contact, when the lady gave the guy the phone to save his number? He struggled like for 10 minutes before finally saying: “ you touch screen is not fiber sensitive, you should look out for the phone like a I had last year..it had pneumonoltramicroscopic fibre..you could just raise your finger and it feels the touch”, may be you will send me your contact on face book”
They will seem like they know all the latest cars, they have even driven them, like they know all types and properties of each computer. Like they can repair any gadget! Eh!
Ten things that most men are afraid of but won't admit
1. Being embarrassed in public, especially to another man, is every man's worst fear. This has to be number one. No man likes to be outdone by another, especially in public, so every man is on guard so that he never 'loses face'.
2. Loneliness and Separation - most men are terrified of being lonely because they do not cope well on their own. Many have a hidden fear that their wives will leave them. It is said that Separation Anxiety is the only fear we are born with; all other fears are learned. It may be just as well that on average, women live five years longer than men.
3. Being considered a poor lover is a universal fear at some point for every man. How else can one explain the plethora of products now available to enhance the man's ability and 'staying power'.
4. Women with strong characters and women not afraid to stand up for themselves can be intimidating and frightening; yes men like a challenge and the thrill of the chase; but not too much of one.
5. Death and dying - men I think have a bigger fear of dying than women. Perhaps this is the ultimate form of Separation Anxiety. Did you know that men injured in the field of battle cry for their mothers.
6. Losing hair/ going bald - though somewhat less so than once, still many men today are terrified of becoming bald.
7. Failing - Men fear failure like women fear mice. The strongest man is the one who is the least afraid of failing.
8. Emotions and opening up - most men enjoy chatting to mates and having intimate conversations with ladies however, generally speaking this is at a superficial level compared to the emotional content displayed by women. For men emotions are energy sapping and often seen as 'wasteful', whereas women can be energised by them.
9. Their wives - most but not all men have a level of fear of their wives; women have the ability to 'make' or 'break' a man's ego identity. Most men are to some degree aware of this. Hence men may cock like crows, but nevertheless they tread warily.
10. Castration - this is a primordial fear and becomes sublimated in adulthood but is never completely lost. According to Freud's psycho-sexual analysis, girls have penis envy and battle with their mothers to win the affections of their father - the Electra Complex, while boys have a fear of castration, if their secret desire for their mothers is discovered - Oedipus Complex.
Therefore, apparently, a man is a complex web of ego defense mechanisms, held together by the love of a woman.
