In The E-Mails...

ऐसे बनाएं दिल को तंदरुस्त...

2012-02-10T01:06:00.000-08:00

ह्रदय रोगों से पुरुष ही नही अब महिलाएं भी अचुती नही हैं|अनियमित या दोषपूर्ण भोजन-प्रणाली और व्यायाम न करने के के कारण ही ह्रदय वाहिकाओं में प्लाक बनने और ह्रदय रोगों की आशंका बदती है|
अगर ह्रदय रोगी अपनी भोजन प्रणाली में बदलाव करें तो यह उतना ही कारगर साबित हो सकता है जितना की मेडिसिन |
कुछ ऐसे पदार्थ हैं जो ह्रदय को स्वास्थ्य बना सकते हैं|
लहसुन:
आर्तरिज़में प्लाक के निर्माण और हाई बीपीकी आशंका कम होती है|एक शोध से सामने आया है की लहसुन में पाए जाने वाले एंजाइम से रक्त वाहिकाओं में संकुचन नही होता,जिससे ह्रदय पर अनावश्यक दबाव नहीं पड़ता|लहसुन से वाहिकाओं में प्लाक नही बन पता जो ब्लोकेज़ का मुख्य कारण है|
संतरा:
रक्तचाप,कोलेस्ट्रोल का स्तर और ह्रदय रोगों की आशंका कम होती है|संत्रेमे मौजूद फाइबर स्पंज के समान काम करता है|यह भोजन में शम्मिल कोलेस्ट्रोल शरीर को अवशोषित करने से रोकता है|वहीं,इसमें मौजूद पोटेशियम से रक्तचाप नियंत्रित रहता है,क्यूंकि यह सोडियम यानी नमक का प्रतिरोधी है|
डार्क चोकलेट:
हाई ब्लड प्रेशर की समस्या नियंत्रित होती है,जो ह्रदय रोगों का मुख्य कारण है|
डार्क चोकलेट रक्त वाहिकाओं का लचीलापन बढ़ाने और रक्त संचार सुचारू रखने में सहायक साबित होता है|वहीं,इससे रक्तचाप भी नियंत्रित होता है,जो हाई ब्लड प्रेशर की आशंका को कम करता है|
अनार:
अनार या इसका जूस पीने से आर्टरीज में प्लाक की निर्माण प्रक्रिया बाधित होती है,क्यूंकि इसमें भरपूर एंटी ओक्सीडेनट्स होते हैं|
बादाम:
बादाम बुरे कोलेस्ट्रोल का स्तर कम करता है,जो ह्रदय रोगों का मुख्य कारण है|बादाम से भोजन में शामिल कोलेस्ट्रोल के अव्शोष्ण को बाधित किया जा सकता है|
ह्रदय रोगों की आशंका कम की जा सकती है यदि भोजन में भरपूर फल व हरी सब्जियां शामिल की जाएँ|
प्लाक के निर्माण की गति धीमी या बाधित की जा सकती है अगर नियमित रूप से लहसुन खाया जाये या भोजन में इस्तेमाल किया जाये|

Smile!..

2012-02-10T00:56:00.000-08:00

Tips To Get Rid Of One Night Stand...

2012-01-27T23:56:00.000-08:00

One-night stand is understood as a single sexual encounter between two people with no expectations from either side for any long term commitment. Having one-night stands is an individual decision and personal choice. While for some it might be morally wrong but for others it might be experimentation. However, if you are experimenting with random sex, certain precautions can work for your own good. Use condom as this can protect you from pregnancy and STDs. Do not use any other contraceptive methods as it may avert pregnancy but not sexual infections.

Useful Tips for Getting Over a One Night Stand

*Before you get rid of one night stands, be very nice and polite. A rude behavior after getting things done is very disrespecting for the partner. Even though you want to get rid of the night stand, a polite and respectful behavior will maintain your impression on the partner
*.Boost your own morale. This is the best way to deal with despair and pain. You could also contemplate writing down the feeling you cherish for your own self. This will make you feel wanted and important as well.
*Resort to stress relieving activities. They often make you feel extremely good about yourself. Whereas some would resort to rigorous physical exercise, others could practice their favourite hobby. You could play a musical instrument or just sing out loud. Basically, it should be an activity which provides you with a sense of pleasure.
*Talk directly and remind your partner that you are not giving any signal to hang on! Appreciate the partner by telling that you had fun last night and end up saying that you don't expect complications especially 'emotional one'. This way you don't get the burden of carrying a new unwanted relationship and smartly deal with night stands.
*Sometimes, the partner can ask you to hang out indirectly by saying that he/she wants to know you better and would like to meet again. To deal with such night stands, just give a close ended answer without letting a conversation start. Say that you want to leave now and just end up with your answer.This is the time when you would probably want to say a lot of things and express your feelings and emotions through them. Consider writing down all negative feelings instead. When you are done, simply burn up the paper you had written on. This will provide a feeling of flushing out your feelings or doing away with them permanently.
*Despite practicing all of the above, if getting over a one night stand still seems difficult, you should probably seek professional assistance. You could consider meeting psychotherapists or psychiatrists who can help you deal with the problem.
*If the gentle talking and explanation doesn't work, just leave the house! You can be a little rude if the partner has demands after one night stand!
*Take help of your friend. Call the friend home to make the partner leave. You can also ask the friend to call if you are not at your place.
*Make an excuse and leave to get over night stand.

How to Safe your Vehicles - Funny Photo Collection

2012-01-27T23:42:00.000-08:00

!!....How to Safe your Vehicles - Funny Photos....!!

8 Reasons for Condom Failure

2012-01-27T23:22:00.000-08:00

On an average two to three percent of condoms fail during use. There are many possible reasons for condom failure but majority of them are contributed to human error. Read on for details

One of the main reasons for condom failure is improper usage of condom. Incorrect usage of condom include- not leaving half inch space at tip of condom, not unrolling condom till end of penis and not holding the rim of condom while pulling it off after use. Therefore it is important to follow instructions jotted on the cover of condom packing.
Another possible reason for condom failure is not using it on time. For extra don’t wait for penetration, instead use condom just before the penis comes into contact with partner’s genitals. Make sure that you use condom every time you have sex.
If condom breaks even after proper usage then it has to do with manufacturing defect. While buying condom you must make sure that it has past manufacturing regulations and tests to check the quality of final product.
Condom manufacturers to carry out water leakage tests, which determine if there are holes in the condoms, and air-burst tests, which link a condom's air-burst volume to its resistance to breakage during sexual activity. According to the U.S Food and Drug Administration, for assured quality, condom must undergo certain quality tests. Water leakage test and air burst test to check its resistance to breakage.
A common reason for condom failure is improper size of condom. If condom is large for your penis then it may slip during sex and if it is small then it is more likely to break.
Another possible cause of condom failure in use of improper lubricant. If you are using latex condoms then oil based lubricants such as vegetable oils, vaseline and baby oils can weaken the rubber.
Don’t store latex condoms in hot places, heat can damage them.
Make sure to check the expiry date of condom you are about to use. Post expiration date condoms lose their elasticity. As a result, they can break.

Quote...

2012-01-27T18:55:00.000-08:00

"Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore"
Andre Gide
"Stay committed to your decisions,but stay flexible in your approach."
Tom Robbins.
"Don't tell God how big your storm is;tell your storm how big your God is."
Anonymous
"Do not spoil; what you have by desiring what you have not,remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for."
Epicurus
"I can't change the direction of the wind,but i can adjust my sails to always reach my destination."
Jimmy Dean
"Dreams are like stars...you may never touch them,but if you follow them,they will lead you to your destiny."
Anonymous
"Discipline is the refining fire by which talent becomes ability."
Roy L Smith
"Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect.It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections."
Anonymous
"You can't punish yourself into change.You can't whip yourself into shape.But You can love Yourself into well-Being."
Susan Skye
"A smile is a light in the window of the soul,indicating that the heart is at home."
Anonymous.

mess up with a woman, I bet you'll never think of !!!

2012-01-23T21:17:00.000-08:00

woman and a man are involved in a car accident on a snowy, cold
Monday morning; it's a bad one. Both of their cars are totally
demolished, but amazingly neither of them is hurt. God works in
mysterious ways.

After they crawl out of their cars, the man is yelling about women drivers.

The woman says, 'So, you're a man. That's interesting. I'm a woman.
Wow, just look at our cars! There's nothing left, but we're unhurt.

This must be a sign from God that we should be friends and live in
peace for the rest of our days.'

Flattered, the man replies, 'Oh yes, I agree completely, this must be
a sign from God! But you're still at fault...women shouldn't be
allowed to drive.'

The woman continues, 'And look at this, here's another miracle. My car
is completely demolished but this bottle of wine didn't break. Surely
God wants us to drink this wine and celebrate our good fortune.' She
hands the bottle to the man.

The man nods his head in agreement, opens it and drinks half the
bottle and then hands it back to the woman.

The woman takes the bottle, puts the cap back on and hands it back to the man.

The man asks, 'Aren't you having any?'

The woman replies, 'No.. I think I'll just wait for the police...'

During Pregnancy Benefits Of Coconut...

2012-01-23T00:01:00.000-08:00

In our country, coconuts have always been associated with health and prosperity and are present in some form or the other on many auspicious occasions. Young coconuts which have green shells (as opposed to the brown mature coconuts) are the ones with the most water content; this water is called coconut water or coconut juice.
Tender coconut water (elaneer / nariyal pani) is one of the richest sources of electrolytes. It is high in chlorides, potassium, and magnesium and has a moderate amount of sugar, sodium and protein. Potassium helps regulate blood pressure and heart function. Coconut water is also a good source of dietary fibre, manganese, calcium, riboflavin and Vitamin C.
It is essentially fat free and has zero cholesterol.Coconut water is a natural diuretic and so increases the flow of urine; this helps prevent urinary tract infections (UTI) as well as reduces the incidence of kidney stones. Coconut water also helps relieve constipation, improves intestinal function and promotes digestive health -– it is often recommended to people suffering from acidity and ulcers.
Besides, coconut water is naturally sterile. Coconut is especially good for pregnant women because of its ability to help maintain the health of the mother and the baby. Here are some of the benefits of having coconut/coconut water during pregnancy:

It helps in digestion which is another common problem during pregnancy. It boosts sluggish digestion.
It contains lauric acid which is known, for its antifungal, antibacterial and antiviral properties. It helps our body to fight against various infections and boost immune system mother and the growing fetus.
Coconut water is fat free and has zero cholesterol beverages. It also increases the level of the HDL cholesterol or the good cholesterol that is present in the body.
Coconut water can help keep the cholesterol levels under control during pregnancy.Coconut helps in the prevention and treatment of heartburn.
It helps in the cleaning of intestinal worms as well as the digestive tract. Consuming coconut can help pregnant woman in keeping away from constipation and heartburn.It re-hydrates the body and prevent from exhaustion.
It replenishes the water and minerals demand of bodyConsidering that coconut water is light, it helps in weight loss. A cup of coconut water contains only 46 calories because most of it, approximately 95%, is water.
A lot of women suffer from urinary tract infection during pregnancy, which can be prevented by consuming coconut water, which is a natural diuretic.
Drinking coconut water can help increase the frequency and flow of urine.

Coconut water in general has many health benefits, and is a great source to be replenish the body's electrolytic value, which is why it is recommended for the old and sick. However, apart from using coconut water as a cure for dehydration and problems like heartburn and low immunity, it can be used to prevent many health problems. Coconut water during pregnancy can be used to prevent all the health problems which occur during pregnancy like UTI and heartburn, and also replenish the body electrolytic level and boost immunity which will help to keep the baby and the mother healthy.

So, pregnant women should drink coconut water on a daily basis to gain all the above mentioned health benefits. Coconut water during pregnancy is also recommended to be mixed with sugar, saffron or turmeric. The white flesh of coconut can also be consumed, and is considered healthy for the mother and fetus as well.

Top Golden Rules Of Parenting

2012-01-20T03:34:00.000-08:00

Parenting is such a complicated job, that there are no real guidelines for it! You have to go by instinct and do the best thing that you can for your child. However, there could be a few basic ground rules that you could lay down for yourself as a parent. Though most of these rules are different for different parents, we compiled a list from our interaction with different parents over the years!

1.Be a Role Model:

Your child is watching you and and is basing his or her behaviour on what he or she observes you doing.Behave the way you would like them to behave as adults.Setting a positive role model is the best gift you could give your child.

2.Make Your child Independent:

Don't micromanage your child's life.Keep setting limits of things the child can do on his own,and keep extending the boundaries as the child's confidence grows.Being independent helps the child be confident and gain a sense of control about his or her life.

3.Respect your Child as an Individual

This is something that most parents have trouble coming to terms with. But parents must treat their child as an individual. Of course he needs discipline and guidance and the occasional spanking, but make sure you remember this rule throughout! Respect his opinion and it will go a long way in strengthening the bond between you and your child. Treating your child as an individual also improves communication between you and him.

4.Evolve with Your Child

Ever heard the saying, "Keeping up with the Joneses"? Though it is mostly used in the materialistic sense, there is a lot that you could learn from the world around you. Though you may have found your parents' style of bringing you up perfect, it may not be as effective with your child. So change with the times, and stay tuned to modern day parenting all the time. Children are constantly evolving, and it is vital that you change with the times where necessary!

5.Make Him a Good Human Being

Now this may not appear to be very important, but teaching your child to be a good human being may be more vital than anything else. The lack of values among today's youth is a direct consequence of parent's not adequately instilling ethics and civic sense among their wards. Therefore, teach him all about being a good human being and why it is important.

6.Avoid Physical Discipline.

Children who are spanked,hit or slapped are more likely to be aggressive,difficult to control or fight with other kids.

7.Show your child that you love them

You can never give your child enough love.wheather it is hugging,cudding or kissing your child or simply telling your child that you love him or her,it does wonders to boost a child's sel-esteem to feel loved and wanted.Love a child unconditionally makes a child grow up secure and assured.

8.Both Parents Need to be Involved

Today it has become vital that both parents be an integral part of a child's formative years. The father should be as important to the child as the mother. Mixing parental roles and equally distributing parenting tasks is way more effective than the traditional father-mother roles. It also plays a role in improving your parenting skills!

9.Explain Your Decisions

Telling your child something is allowed or disallowed gives the child a perspective from your point of view which he or she might not have.A child does not have the life experience that you have and cannot understand why you have set down certain rules and norms.

10.Be the Adult

set the rules,the boundaries and don't let the child get away with anything he or she shouldn't.You need to know what your child is doing and who your child is with at any point of the day or night.

Secterts To Spice Up Your Sex Life...

2012-01-20T02:31:00.000-08:00

Long-term relationships can often mean skimping on sex. The solution to that is simple: Upgrade your sex life by following these tips.

1.Get Active,get fit
t A healthy Body is a sexy body.Research has proved that regular exercise can improve your mood,immune and cardiovascular systems and help you lose weight,making you feel better and more confident about yourself.exercise also helps increase the level of testosterone,the primary hormone which drives the libido in both men and women
.
2.Be Deliberate
It is easy to push sex to the backburner,when the demands on everyday living are punishing.stop thinking of it as a chore that can be bypassed because you are too tired at the end of the day or have no time.It is important to factor in sex on your
to-do-list.Give it top priority.

3.Get Textual
Send a kinky text or email to your man while he's at work, telling him what you plan to do to him that evening.

4.Enjoy An Aphrodisiac
Hot and spicy foods that are said to make you sweaty and excitable,so make of it!chilli releases Endorphins,stimulates nerve endings and increases your heart rate.

5.Be Open To Experimenting
Try out new things,Watch your body as you do that,listen to its sensations.Follow its desires.Surprise your partner with fresh moves.If your partner suggests something crazy,do not reject it outright.

6.Smell Good
Body Odour is a major turn off.So is bad breath.Ensure that both of you have a bath before the act,In fact,taking a shower together can be a dun part of your Foreplay.Avoid eating pungent food containing onions and garlic and other such food that leaves your mouth smelling foul.

7.New Locations,New Positions
People often have a very 2-dimensional outlook on the nature of sex and how one should go about having it. The vast, vast majority of people, for example, only have sex in the bedroom. And even they have a set routine, lights dimmed or off, the same progression through the various stages of sex: a little foreplay, intercourse in missionary and maybe doggy if the guy’s lucky and the girls feeling up to it, then it’s pretty much over. Even if your personal situation has more life than that, sex in the bedroom can still become a drag after a while. So, switch it up. Think about different locations you can use: the living room, bathroom, kitchen…consider all possibilities, even if they at first seem far-fetched and silly. Also, think about locations away from the home once in a while. Motels and cheap hotels offer a couple a fresh place to explore each other. Secondly, improvise and experiment with the positions you use. .

8.Feel The Big O
A woman sexual satisfaction boils down to that 'moment of exquisite pleasure 'when she has an orgasm.Although the entire journey to reaching orgasm can be very gratifying,the ultimate moment of bliss has always been that climatic moment.

9.Communicate Fantasies
Something few men and women do is talk to their partners about what turns them on, about things they’d like to try, scenarios they’d love to act out, etc. etc. Make telling your partner about things that turn you on a regular thing and, in return, you listen to their previously private fantasies and day-dreams. If doing it face-to-face is too embarrassing, consider sending saucy messages via email or text message. You’ll find that after reading about what really gets your partner going, you’ll be much more excited and motivated to please them sexually, and they’ll feel the same way back

10.Consult Your Doctor
Finally,if there's any doubt lurking in your mind,never hesitate to consult your gynaecologist or sex therapist.Discuss things that bother you and he might help you break the ice between you and your partner,in case there is any.

Use these 10spicy Secrets and zing to your pleasure.

Healthy Living Essentials For The New Age Woman...

2012-01-18T00:56:00.000-08:00

Being a woman,you have special nutritional needs.you have to look your best,sail through puberty,marriage,pregnancy and menopause.A healthy diet can make you look and feel good.A balanced diet generally is composed of proteins,fats,carbohydrates,minerals,vitamins,fibres and enough water.
Here are some important essentials:

Include foods such as whole grain bread,chapati,brown rice,wheat bran,barely etc.
include pulses and legumes,which are rich in proteins.Paneer,tofu and soy milk are rich in phytonutrients and are heart healthy.
Folate is important for women especially during pregnancy.It helps in iron absorption.You can get folate from oranges,beans,asparagus.
go green.include green and colourful veggies to freeze that youthful look.green leafy vegetables such as spinach,brocoli,fenugreek leaves,cabbage etc.are full of iron.
Fruits are filled with fibre and anti-oxidents that get rid of tha free radicals responsible for ageing.
Nuts contain monosaturated fats,which help lower cholestrol and polynsaturated fats,which prevent heart disease.Nuts are rich in protein,calcium,phosphorus,zinc,copper,selenium,folate and vitamins A and E.
Calcium helps in bone health and prevents you from developing osteoporosis.Consume low fat dairy products,dark green leafy vegetables,soy products,grains and fortified calcium products.
Water is not food:yet it is an important nutrient,which your body needs.It helps rejuvenate your skin and aids digestion.Drink around Eight glasses of water every day.
quit smoking to avoid health hazards.
Adequate quality sleep is as crucial as a nutritious diet.you need about 6-8 hours of sleep every night.Your sleeping time needs to increase when you are pregnant.

10 Tips for Safe Online Shopping

2012-01-10T23:55:00.000-08:00

Shopping online does carry some risk, but so does shopping at brick-and-mortar stores. At least online shoppers don't need to worry about fender-benders in the parking lot, pick pockets at the mall, or getting the flu from all those fellow shoppers.But the nice thing about shopping online is that by following some basic guidelines you can be reasonably sure you'll have a safe experience.

1. Know your merchant

Study the merchant, from whom you are purchasing. Search for bad reviews from multiple sites. Where possible, shop only from reputed merchants.

2. Use Strong Passwords

We like to beat this dead horse about making sure to utilize uncrackable passwords, but it's never more important than when banking and shopping online. Our tips for creating a unique password can come in handy during a time of year when shopping around probably means creating new accounts on all sorts of e-commerce sites.

3. Read Policies

Privacy Policy - The policy should mention the information collected by the merchant, which and how information is going to be used and / or shared, various steps followed to maintain privacy of the shopper, etc

.Delivery and Return policies – These should provide information onreturning unsatisfactory items, refund policy, contact details, etc. which are useful in-case you receive wrong / unsatisfactory item.

4. Don't Tell All

No online shopping store needs your social security number or your birthday to do business. However, if crooks get them, combined with your credit card number for purchases, they can do a lot of damage. The more they know, the easier it is to steal your identity. When possible, default to giving up the least amount of information.

5. Avoid Public Terminals

Hopefully we don't have to tell you it's a bad idea to use a public computer to make purchases, but we still will. If you do, just remember to log out every time you use a public terminal, even if you were just checking email.What about using your own laptop to shop while you're out? It's one thing to hand over a credit card to get swiped at the checkout, but when you must enter the number and expiration date on a website while sitting in a public cafe, you're giving an over-the-shoulder snooper plenty of time to see the goods. At the very least, think like a gangster: Sit in the back, facing the door.

6. Check offers, charges and details of the product

Compare the quality and the price of selected products with products from other companies/ merchants. Having knowledge of the market rates of these items helpsin deciding what and where to buy from! 4. Secure Click Website - Ensure that the website is secure, i.e.the website should have ‘s’ in http. The payment website should be SSL site, where all the transactions are encrypted before they are sent to the merchant for further actions.Machine - should have various security updates to ensure that thieves cannot ‘break into’ your machine and get away with important information while you are shopping.

7. Use Credit Card

Credit card payments are generally more secure than debit cards. Also, most of the companies offer extended protection and warranties in case of thefts, using credit cards. If the intentional use of credit card by electronic thief can be proved, companies waiver off the charges completely. These warranties and securities are less for debit card transactions.

8. Sharing details

Only such information should be shared which are required at the time of financial transactions.Any other information like PAN Card number, etc., which is not essential for transactions, should not be shared. Internet passwords should be treated like ATM PINs.

9. Record transactions

This is one of the most important tip to be followed. Maintain hard copy recordsof all the purchases. The record should mention the date of purchase, time, quantity, price and the delivery date. This is helpful for further communication, in case the need arises. You should also maintain records of the URL of the merchant, confirmation email/message of purchase, etc.
Know the real price: Be sure you understand the actual cost of the item, including shipping, handling, and sales tax. That can have an enormous impact on the final price. Many merchants are offering free shipping during the holidays and some merchants that have both online physical stores will let you pick up the item in the store for free. In most states if you do business with a merchant that has a physical presence in your state, the merchant is required to collect state sales taxes. Although it's tough to enforce, some states expect you to self-report all of your online purchases and pay sales taxes when you file your state income tax return.

10. Use Familiar Websites

Start at a trusted site rather than shopping with a search engine. Search results can be rigged to lead you astray, especially when you drift past the first few pages of links. If you know the site, chances are it's less likely to be a rip off. We all know Amazon.com and that it carries everything under the sun; likewise, just about every major retail outlet has an online store, from Target to Best Buy to Home Depot. Beware of misspellings or sites using a different top-level domain (.net instead of .com, for example)—those are the oldest tricks in the book. Yes, the sales on these sites might look enticing, but that's how they trick you into giving up your info.

Causes Of Miscarriage...

2012-01-10T23:35:00.000-08:00

With pregnancy and subsequent child birth, it is a transition for a female from girlhood to womanhood. But for many women, this happiest experience of life ends on a sad note because of miscarriage. By gaining some knowledge about miscarriage causes, you can avoid such a situation and have a happy pregnancy.
50 - 60 % of first trimester and 20% of second trimester miscarriages are due to chromosomal abnormalities within the fetus. The factors leading to this cause include chromosomally abnormal sperm or egg, abnormal cell division of the fetus, and chromosomal abnormalities of mother and / or father.Chromosomal abnormal sperm or egg will create a fetus that is genetically abnormal. Therefore, the woman's body will reject the fetus and be a cause of miscarriage. Majority of these miscarriages will occur early in the pregnancy and a lot of women will not even know that they were pregnant.Chromosomal abnormalities of the mother or father require special genetic testing and should be performed by a genetic counselor. The genetic counselor can evaluate the 23 pairs of chromosomes from both the mother and father and assess their risk for recurrent miscarriages. Most physicians require that a couple have at least two if not three miscarriages before referring them for genetic testing.

Signs and Symptoms:

Miscarriage is often accompanied by the following signs and symptoms:

Bleeding -- brown or bright red vaginal bleeding or spotting. Light bleeding early in pregnancy is fairly common, and does not mean you will have a miscarriage. But you should see your doctor.
Passage of tissue from the vagina or a gush of clear or pink vaginal fluid
Abdominal pain or cramping
Signs of pregnancy, such as breast sensitivity and morning sickness, may go away
Dizziness, lightheadedness, or feeling faint

Common Causes of Miscarriage

Thyroid disease especially when it is hypothyroidism can be the cause of miscarriage. Therefore it is essential that the woman who is hypothyroid monitor their TSH, T4 and T3 levels regularly because the fetus does not have a fully functional thyroid and relies on the mother for its source
Diabetes if not followed closely and changes with medications are not made it also can be a cause of miscarriage. During pregnancy the demand of insulin will increase and will change from one stage of pregnancy to the next. This is because during pregnancy there are hormones released that aid in the growth of the fetus but these hormones block the effectiveness of insulin. Therefore, most diabetic women who become pregnant are followed by maternal fetal medicine physicians Any hormonal deficiency such as low progesterone results in loss of pregnancy within the first ten weeks of gestation. Women with thyroid problems are also prone to miscarriages. Fortunately, thyroid problem once diagnosed can be easily treated.Chromosome defects are one of the most common causes of miscarriage. Chromosomes are thread-like structures within the nucleus responsible for determining genetic characteristics. When the sperm and egg fertilise, if any of the chromosome is faulty, it results in miscarriage.
Many women suffer from vitamin and mineral deficiencies which in turn affect their chances of conception. If they are fortunate enough to conceive, it can sometimes result in miscarriage during the early months of pregnancy. It has been often noted that such women who become pregnant in their late thirties are at a higher risk of miscarriage.
Tobacco use, alcohol use, and illicit drugs especially cocaine and heroin have been found to be a cause of miscarriage.
Abnormalities of the uterus usually are a cause of miscarriage after the twelve week of gestation. Unfortunately this is also when they are usually diagnosed.

How To Get Rid Of Split Ends Without Cutting Your Hair...

2012-01-09T03:09:00.000-08:00

Most women when faced with split ends reach for a pair of scissors. Trimming is not the answer to split ends. In most cases you will instead end up with rough edges and more split ends. While daily wear and tear will cause some hair to be damaged, split ends can become a recurring problem. Understand the nature of your split ends and look for a permanent solution.

Instructions

1.A dry scalp can be a major cause of split ends. Nourish your scalp with warm oil treatments. A trichologist may advise you to take supplements of vitamins A and D found aplenty in almond oil. Do however seek the doctor’s advice in case of excessive dryness and split ends.

2.Avoid split endz in the first place. There are a large number of things that cause split ends. Brushing too hard, brushing hair that is wet, hair dryers, curling irons, straighteners, diet, dry air... The list seems almost never ending. Probably the best way to avoid split ends is to have hair trimmed every six weeks. Once an end is split, it will continue to grow worse. Six week trims help avoid this problem in the first place.

3 Use the Split Ender. This innovative product promises to actually remove those ends that are split. This can be a great technique to use in between trims and to begin repairing hair. Since the only way to really get rid of a split is by cutting, this is a nice solution without chopping off all your hair at one time. You can find out more by looking at the resources section below.

4 Temporarily cure split ends by using products such as intensive conditioners, leave in conditioners and shine serum. There are many additional resources for split ends listed in the resources area.

5.Prolonged use of hair irons, curler rods, crimpers, blow-dryers and even exposure to sun during summer can cause irreparable damage to your hair. Avoid split ends by wearing a cotton scarf outdoors and reducing reliance on grooming tools that require heat.

6.Do check the salt content in your water supply. Sometimes the cause of our problem is so ubiquitous it ironically escapes our notice. Hard water can be a major culprit in causing split ends. If daily use is unavoidable ask your trichologist for protective products you can employ.

Diet

Split ends may result from lack of proper nutrition. A healthy body always means healthy hair. If you’re not getting enough protein and vitamins your hair may turn brittle.

Guidelines for Pregnancy

2012-01-05T22:45:00.000-08:00

Every Woman experiences some physiological body changes during pregnancy.While some of these are common.others are the consequences of changes happening in the body.These changes are related to the hormonal changes,increase in uterine size,weight,etc.

Points to Consider :

Follow an iron and protein-rich diet.
Take adequate rest;at least two hour during daytime and eight hours at night.
Go for light routine exercises like line walking.
Avoid jerky movements and exerting yourself at work.
Have adequate fluid intake.
Check for frequent voiding of urine and maintain anal hygiene.
Go for antenatal check ups regularly.
Be regular with your blood and ultra-sonography tests.
Check the amount of fluid around the baby through sonography.
Keep an eye on your weight gain.
Avoid exposure to smoking/alcohal.
Avoid exposure to any radiation or chemical.
Mental relaxation and alleviation of anxiety and stress are a must.

Steps to Stunning Hair...

2012-01-05T22:23:00.000-08:00

Not everybody is blessed with beautiful hair.You need to take care to get shimmering and smooth hair.
Steps to stunning Hair:

Oil your hair at least once a Fortnight.for best results,mix olive and coconut oil,make it warm and apply it on the scalp to the tip of your hair.
You need to choose a shampoo and conditioner according to your hair type.Don't take chances with your hair and keep your hair free from dirt and dandruff.
shampoo your hair properly and rinse it twice.Use the conditioner only on the hair strands and avoid the scalp.
Take protein-rich diet,the secret to healthy hair.Eat a lot of fruits and include dairy products in your diet,too.
Understand your hair type and know what needs to be treated.Seek advice from professionals.Don't ignore your beauty, and so,always preserve your hair.

कैसे बचें मोशन सिकनेस से...

2011-11-25T03:20:00.000-08:00

मोशन सिकनेस क्या है:
सफ़र करते समय जब हमें रास्ते में लम्बे समय तक तेज रफ्तार में गुजरती हुई चीज़ों जैसे पेड़,गाड़ियाँ...पर फोकस करने में हमारी आँखों को परेशानी हो,और सर चकराने लगे ऐसा लगे क चक्कर आने लगा है तो ही मोशन सिकनेस कहतें हैं|इस से बचने के लिए हम इन बातों का ध्यान रख सकते हैं|

जिन लोगों को सफ़र में जी मचलाने लगे या घबराहट की शिकायत हो तो उन्हें साथ में अदरक का टुकड़ा और लॉन्ग-इलाइची जरुर रख लेना चाहिए|और सफ़र पर निकलने से पहले फलों का जूस या तरल पदार्थों का सेवन करना चाहिए|
ट्रेन या बस में खड़े होकर सफ़र करने से हमेशा बचना चाहिए|हमेशा कोशिश करें की सीट रिज़र्व करवा लें|
सफ़र पर निकलने से पहले भारी भोजन न करें|यदि भोजन करना भी है तो हल्का फुल्का ही करें|
चलती गाडी में अधिक समय तक खिड़की से बाहर नहीं देखना चाहिए,क्यूंकि सड़क पर मौजूद चीज़ें तेजी से आँखों के सामने से गुजरती हैं|ऐसे में आँखें असहज हो जाती है|
सफ़र करते समय अखबार या किताब पदने से बचना चाहिए|क्यूंकि आँखों को फॉक्स करने में अधिक मेहनत करनी पडती है,और आँखे थक जाती हैं|
सफ़र के दौरान सर को ज्यादा हिलाना डुलाना नहीं चाहिए वहीं सर को झटके से कभी घुमाना भी नहीं चाहिए,क्यूंकि ऐसे में मोशन सिकनेस की समस्या होती है|

हनीमून पे जाने से पहले जरूरी बातें...

2011-11-22T18:15:00.000-08:00

हनीमून जिंदगी के कुछ ऐसे पलों में से एक है,जहाँ किसी तरह के समझोते की गुंजाईश नहीं होती|हनीमून ट्रिप प्लान करने से पहले अपना बजट तयार कर लें|कितने दिनों के लिए जाना है यह भी सोच लें|इस ट्रिप को शादी के कुछ दिन बाद रखना चाहिए ताकि शादी की थकान भी दूर हो जाये|

ध्यान रखने योग्य बातें:

सबसे पहले एक अच्छा कैमरा जरुर रख लें ताकि आपकी प्यारी यादों के पलों को एक जगह संजोया जा सके|
सामान की पेकिंग मोसम के हिसाब से करें|
मोबाइल और उसका चर्गेर भी रख लें|
ट्रिप पे निकलने से पहले सबसे पहले पासपोर्ट,होटल की बुकिंग सम्बंधित कागज़ जरुर रख लें|
ज्यादा नकद मत ले क जायें|एक से ज्यादा बैंकों के ए टी एम् पास हों तो ज्यादा अच्छा है|
किसी अच्छे टूर एंड ट्रावेल्स एजेंसी का पता पहले से करके रखें|
जाने से पहले बड़ों का आशीर्वाद ले के जायें|

Qian Hongyan - The Basketball Girl - A Must See

2011-11-11T22:23:00.000-08:00

Qian Hongyan lost both her legs in an accident at only three years old in 2000. Hongyan’s family wasn’t wealth enough to provide her with hi-tech equipment to help her walk, so they gave her a basketball to help her move. Hongyan used brushes as low-level crutches. She was able to travel to and from home and school by bouncing on the basketball. Five years later, doctors were finally been able to give her prosthetic legs.

The seventh national special sports-meeting was held in Kunming in May 2007. Qian Hongyan went to watch the games every day and seeing the handicapped players struggle in the matches deeply moved her. After the sports meeting, Qian Hongyan was determined to join in the special swimming club. She and her parents went to consult the opportunity with Zhang Honghu, a well known coach who has trained many handicapped swimming champions. Then, Qian Hongyan began her life in the swimming club and did professional swimming training.

“Qian Hongyan studies hard. She never grouches in training although she was confronted with many difficulties at the beginning”, her coach said.

At first, Zhang didn’t pay much attention to Qian Hongyan. “The individual’s capability is important in choosing a player”, he said. “Qian Hongyan doesn’t have legs. It seems that a ship has no a helm, then the ship could work well for lack of a sense of direction”. In order to solve the problem, zhang made a special training plan for Qian Hongyan to help balance the shoulders.

Qian Hongyan swims for about 2000 meters in a day. She always does the exercises and sit-ups, dumbbells and so on carefully. After a short period, to Zhang’s surprise, he found that Hongyan was gifted in swimming. Zhang said, “Hongyan is a very good swimmer but it would be boring and take a long time to train her and repeat the exercises every day. I couldn’t ensure she would be a world champion. However, I can tell that she is definitely a promising swimmer. Our biggest wish is to train her to have a positive attitude to life”. Qian Hongyan’s dream is to take part in the 2012 special Olympic Games and become a world champion. She works hard to achieve her dream”.

Eight-year-old handicapped Chinese girl Qian Hongyan crawls with two home-made props and part of a basketball at Zhuangxia Village on January 5, 2005 in Luliang County of Qujing City, Yunnan Province, China. The girl who lost both of her legs in a traffic accident in 2000 at the age of three, struggles to live her life with a basketball as an underprop, “walking” between school and home by herself. The girl's story is widely reported in the country, and experts from China Rehabilitation Research Center has come to Qian's home to help her for rehabilitative treatment early 2005.

Zhang Honghu, founder of the South of the Clouds Swimming Club, lifts up disabled ten-year-old girl Qian Hongyan during swimming training at the club on September 2, 2007 in Kunming of Yunnan Province, China. Handicapped Qian, known as the “Basketball girl”, joined the club on August 6 to learn to swim and dreams of competing during the London 2012 Special Olympics. She lost both of her legs in a traffic accident in 2000 at the age of three, but struggled to live her life with a basketball as her underpinning.

Eight-year-old handicapped Chinese girl Qian Hongyan, reported as the "Basketball girl", ties her shoes at her home in Zhuangxia Village on May 29, 2005 in Luliang County of Yunnan Province, China. Qian, who used to move her body with the help of a basketball, can finally stand up and walk using artificial limbs. The girl lost both of her legs in a traffic accident in 2000 at the age of three, but struggled to live her life with a basketball as an underprop, “walking” between school and home by herself. The girl's story is widely reported in the country, and drew the attention of the Ministry of Public Security and China Rehabilitation Research Center. She was invited to Beijing and had artificial limbs fitted free of charge at the center. After three months of recovery, Qian is now able to walk with her new legs and has returned to her hometown to resume study in school.

Karwa Chauth Customs and Rituals...

2011-10-12T00:58:00.000-07:00

Karvachauth Rituals and Traditions
All women wake up early in the morning and eat specially prepared food known as 'sargi' before sunrise. They are not supposed to eat or even drink water during the day. In the evening, they dress up in bridal finery and listen to the Karva Chauth katha.

Sargi
The preparations for karva chauth start the day before the festival. Brides get beautifully wrapped baskets with the sargi (the food to be eaten before sunrise) from their mother-in-law. The fasting women of the neighborhood get together before sunrise, to eat the sargi, which mainly consists of thirst-quenching foods, like fruits, along with a main course of potatoes eaten with hot puris (a deep-fried Indian bread). Traditionally, a newly wed woman spends the day before the fast in her mother’s house and comes to her mother-in-law’s house only on the day of karwa chauth.

Baya
On karwa chauth, married women wear bright and beautiful clothes, heavy jewelry and bangles. They also get intricate patterns drawn, with henna, on their palms and feet. Traditionally, it is the mother who usually sends baya, which includes sweets, money, clothes and a karva (small earthen pitcher), to their married daughters’ houses. In the evening, the mother-in-law or any elderly women of the house accepts the baya, given to them by the younger married women of the family. Thus, the festival of karva chauth involves not only the married women, but other members of the household as well.

Preparations of Karva Chauth Day
Married women start preparing for Karwa Chauth pooja a day in advance. They buy shringar or traditional adornments and other pooja items like karwa, matthi, heena etc. Early in the morning, before sunrise, they prepare food and have it. The morning passes by in other festive activities like applying heena on hands and feet, decorating pooja thali and meeting family and loved ones.

In the evening, women gather at a common pooja place like temple or someone's house who has arranged the puja. An elderly lady or 'pujarin' narrates the Karva Chauth legend and all ladies listen to the katha. The essentials of this gathering and listening of the Karwa chauth story includes a special mud pot, that is considered a symbol of lord Ganesha, a metal urn filled with water, flowers, idols of Ambika Gaur Mata, Goddess Parwati and some fruits, mathi and food grains. A part of this is offered to the deities and the storyteller.

Puja
The women of the neighborhood usually gather in someone’s house and perform the puja together, in the evening. A small area is prepared for the ceremony, which can be performed in any part of the house as well as in the open. A small square platform is placed against the wall and kharia matti (powdery mud) is used to cleanse and to decorate the puja area. An idol of Gaur Mata, or Goddess Parvati (the consort of Lord Shiva), is placed on the consecrated spot. Traditionally, the tiny image of Gaur Mata was made from cow dung, though nowadays pictures or idols of Parvati are the norm.
The fast is supposed to be broken only after moonrise. Women look towards their husbands through a sieve and then at the moon. Then they perform aarti of their husbands and take his blessings. It is the husband who then gives the first sip of water and the first bite of food to his wife.During this time, they also chant the following prayer ,which is for the well being of the husband and for marital bliss:

"Addey-addey Krishna pakshe var
Tith Karva Chauth
Manse hain apne suhag ke liye
Yeh karva, mattri, halwa, sari, nagdi
Apne suhag ka liye rani ka sa raj dena
Gaur ka sa suhag dena Shri Krishna nimant."

Enjoy Karwa Chauth:

In spite of being one of the toughest fasts, karva chauth is the most awaited festival of the year and is welcomed by married woman with great fervor. The entire day of fasting can be enjoyed without any feeling of tiredness. Here are few tips to make the day more joyous -Married women can gather together and enjoy singing the songs of Karwa Chauth.For a newly-wed woman, karva chauth is particularly special, as they get decked up in their bridal lehnga-choli. So, they spend their time in arranging all the matching accessories to look gorgeous in the evening.They can also watch religious movies or serials on the television to spend time on this auspicious day.They can also spend their day in decorating their pooja thali with lots of accessories.

Karwa Chauth SMS

2011-10-12T00:33:00.000-07:00

Karva Chauth is a fasting observed by the Hindu women for the long life, health and prosperity of their husband. . The word Karwa (Karva) means a clay pot and chauth means fourth, as the festival is commemorated on the fourth day after the full moon in Kartik month of Hindu calendar. It is a festival that is of great importance to the women and celebrated throughout India with zeal and enthusiasm. The women break their fast after the moon has risen.Happy Karwa Chauth.

May The Sindoor,
Testify Your Prayers,
For Your Husband’s Long Life.
The Mangal Sutra Reminds You Of,
The Promises That Binds You.
And The Color Of Mehndi,
Prove The Depth Of Your Love.

I m feeling so happy, do u know why?
Cuz i m so lucky, do u know how?
Cuz God loves me.Do u know how?
Cuz he gave me a gift.
Do u know what?
Its YOU my love!
Happy Karwa…!!

If I were a tear in ur eye I wood roll down onto ur lips. But if you were a tear in my eye, I wood never cry as I wood be afraid to lose you! Thanks for being mine forever. Happy Karva Chauth!

May The Moon Light, Flood Your Life With, Happiness & Joy, Peace & Harmony. ...Happy Karwa Chauth.

The Mangal Sutra Reminds You Of, The Promises That Binds You. And The Color Of Mehndi, Prove The Depth Of Your Love..

Fast taken by wives...
For well being, longevity
and prosperity of husbands.
Seeking his blessings.
May this blissful day fills your life...
With love and happiness.

Dhanya woh devi jo pati sukh hetu vrat paave,
Dhanya woh pati jo devi roop patni paave,
Dhanya woh swaroop jo Manushyata ka deep jalawe.
Karva Chauth ki Shubhkamnaye....

A dark cloud of gloom is hovering my heart,
I am praying for your happiness & long life,
You are always in my heart,
Missing you very much on this karwa chauth...

Important Tips for Co-Sleeping with Baby

2011-10-08T02:22:00.000-07:00

Co-sleeping, or bed sharing is frowned upon in western cultures. This is due to studies on cot death and sudden infant death syndrome, where in some cases, the death rate of those who bed shared were significantly higher.

Its important to not smoke or drink or take any drugs while co-sleeping, including pain killers, sleeping pills, and prescription medication. Even though you may seem aware, these are factors which can distort the way you normally sleep, and how deep a sleep you fall into.

Its also very important to take into consideration what tod duvet you sleep with. And if you sleep with a pillow to ensure its under your sheet so baby is unable to wriggle under it.

Make sure there are no gaps that baby can wriggle into and get stuck.

Only ever co-sleep on firm surfaces, never waterbeds, or beanbags.

Babies should not sleep with siblings or pets. Babies should always sleep with the mother, so she could breastfeed during the night if necessary. There is a danger to pets or family can roll with the baby and hurt

Babies do not have to sleep with plush bedding, pillows or stuffed animals. In fact, the baby should not sleep or even close to the bed or a soft pillow. Be careful not to close the baby’s face with a blanket, except that it is too cold. You can cover the entire body of a baby in a blanket or quilt, but the face should be left uncovered.

You need to ensure there is not enough bed space to accommodate you and your baby comfortable. A comfortable bed is potentially dangerous for your baby. Each of these beds should have a little room to move.

Guidelines for co-sleeping
The usual ideas for safe sleeping apply to babies who share their parents’ beds:

Put your baby on his back to sleep (never on his tummy or side).
Make sure his head is uncovered during sleep.
Keep the sleep environment smoke-free.
Provide firm and safe bedding.

Here are some simple additional safety precautions for co-sleeping. These will reduce the chance of accidental death through smothering:

Avoid sleeping together on the couch – this is very dangerous, as your baby can get trapped between you and the cushions and can suffocate.
Make sure your bed is firm. Don’t use anything soft underneath (for example, a lamb’s wool underlay).
Use lightweight blankets, not heavy quilts or doonas.
Keep sheets and blankets low down on the bed so they can’t cover your baby’s head.
Put the bed in the middle of the room and check that the mattress fits firmly in the bed frame. This will stop your baby getting trapped between the bed and the wall or the mattress and the bed frame.
Keep your baby away from any pillows.
Put your baby beside one parent, but not between parents, so there’s less chance she’ll slip under the bedding.
Put your baby where she can’t fall out of bed, but not against pillows or a wall. Babies can suffocate under pillows and have died after becoming trapped between the bed and the wall. A safer alternative is placing the mattress on the floor.

Sleeping Tips...

2011-10-08T02:02:00.000-07:00

Early to bed , early to rise makes a man perfect. A good night sleep is most important for health , beauty and body fitness. Specially for women a best sleep is so much important for there care.Eat right and get regular exercise

Your daytime eating and exercise habits play a role in how well you sleep. It’s particularly important to watch what you put in your body in the hours leading up to your bedtime.
Stay away from big meals at night. Try to make dinnertime earlier in the evening, and avoid heavy, rich foods within two hours of bed. Fatty foods take a lot of work for your stomach to digest and may keep you up. Also be cautious when it comes to spicy or acidic foods in the evening, as they can cause stomach trouble and heartburn.
Avoid alcohol before bed. Many people think that a nightcap before bed will help them sleep. While it may make you fall asleep faster, alcohol reduces your sleep quality, waking you up later in the night. To avoid this effect, so stay away from alcohol in the hours before bed.
Cut down on caffeine. You might be surprised to know that caffeine can cause sleep problems up to ten to twelve hours after drinking it! Consider eliminating caffeine after lunch or cutting back your overall intake.
Avoid drinking too many liquids in the evening. Drinking lots of water, juice, tea, or other fluids may result in frequent bathroom trips throughout the night. Caffeinated drinks, which act as diuretics, only make things worse.
Quit smoking. Smoking causes sleep troubles in numerous ways. Nicotine is a stimulant, which disrupts sleep. Additionally, smokers actually experience nicotine withdrawal as the night progresses, making it hard to sleep.
Distractions Allowed: This isn't as common as most sleeping tips, as some places would say the obvious - but experts note that if you don't have any distractions while you're going to go to sleep, you're going to get to sleep faster. This means shutting off the television, putting the cell phone in another room, turning off the radio, and avoiding anything else you might have in your room that's going to distract you. You might think that those things are 'helping you', but really, they're just pulling you away from slumber..
Enough Sleep: Getting enough sleep is vital, and for this, you need to listen to your body - some people function wonderfully with 7 hours, but others need much more. It really does depend. Most adults need 7-8 hours a night, and if you're finding yourself dragging in the morning, try to catch a few more 'zzz's' by going to bed sooner. When you've found the perfect amount, you should be able to wake up to the alarm ready to face the day.
Light Meals: Sure, that huge plate of comfort food - meatloaf, potatoes... - it was great then. But now, you're too full to sleep! How is that possible? Eating a heavy meal before bed can hurt you, and keep you up as your body tries to digest the excess. Instead, eat lightly, or nothing at all before you bury yourself in the sheets for the night.
Liquids aren't your Friend: Don't get in a bottle of water while you're sitting in the bed, trying to sleep. You'll be getting up to go to the bathroom, and ruining the sleep that you just had with your little incident. Instead, drink enough throughout the day that you can go to sleep and stay asleep.
Also avoid Bright Lights. Bright lights before bed can really hurt your sleeping, because your body feels more awake, the brighter it is. There actually are a few things that you can do about it, too.Keep your room dark and cool
When it’s time to sleep, make sure that your environment is dark. Even dim lights—especially those from TV or computer screens—can confuse the body clock. Heavy curtains or shades can help block light from windows, or you can try an eye mask to cover your eyes.
The temperature of your bedroom also affects sleep. Most people sleep best in a slightly cool room (around 65° F or 18° C) with adequate ventilation. A bedroom that is too hot or too cold can interfere with quality sleep.
Make sure your bed is comfortable
Is your bed big enough? You should have enough room to stretch and turn comfortably, including with a bedmate present.
Your mattress and bedding are also important. If you often wake up with a sore back or an aching neck, you may need to invest in a new mattress or a try a different pillow. Experiment with different levels of mattress firmness, foam or egg crate toppers, and pillows that provide more support.

अच्छी नींद कैसे आये...

2011-10-08T01:43:00.000-07:00

अगर रात को अच्छी नींद आ जाये तो सुबह उठ कर दिन भर के काम आसानी से हो जाते हैं|इसके लिए जरूरी है नीचे लिखी कुछ जरूरी बातो पर गौर फरमाना:

सुबह टहलना और व्यायाम करना भी अच्छी नींद पाने के लिए सहायक होते हैं|इसके साथ साथ योग भी करें तो शरीर को काफी आराम मिलता है|मानसिक तनाव भी दूर होता है|
रोज़ एक ही समय पर सोने की आदत बनाना थोडा मुश्किल है,लेकिन कोशिश करनी चाहिए के एक ही समय सोया जाये इस तरह आपकी नींद का एक समय बंध जायेगा और आपको अच्छी नींद आएगी|
अगर नींद नही आ रही तो जबरदस्ती आँखे बंद मत कीजिये क्यूंकि इस से आपका सिर दर्द होगा और मानसिक तनाव बड़ेगा,इस के लिए आपको कुछ पदने की कोशिश करनी चाहिए|इस से आपकी आँखे थक जाएँगी और आप को जल्दी नींद आ जाएगी|
अच्छी नींद के लिए रात को जल्दी सोने भी आवशयक है|अगर जल्दी सोयेंगे तो आपको अपने आप ही जल्दी नींद भी आएगी|
सोने से पहले गुनगुने पानी से मुंह हाथ धोये या नहाएं|इस से हमारी मांसपेशियों को आराम मिलता है और शरीर का तापमान भी सामान्य हो जाता है|
कोशिश करें क सोने वाले बिस्तर पर बैठकर टीवी न देखें|

MIRACLE OF GANPATI

2011-10-03T23:14:00.000-07:00

Common Mistakes to Get Pregnant

2011-08-20T01:46:00.000-07:00

Women trying to conceive often make some mistake that hurt their chances of getting pregnant.

Below mentioned are the common mistakes that delayed pregnancy:

One of the common mistake that people make while trying to get pregnant is that they do not time intercourse during ovulation. Since ovulation is the most fertile period of menstrual cycle it is best to time your sex around ovulation. Egg releases during ovulation and lives for around 12 to 24 hours. On missing this fertility window your chances of getting pregnant dramatically goes down.
Frequent sex decreases the sperm count as well as quality. Experts are of the view that, having sex on alternate days is best for getting pregnant. But what is important here is to know your ovulation period and time your sex accordingly.
It often happens that women who face problem in getting pregnant start blaming themselves. However, in more than 40% of infertility cases the problem is in men. If you are not able to conceive even after trying for a year then both the partners must consult doctor.
While trying to get pregnant women are so much occupied with the actual process that they forget the basic things. Most couples neglect the importance of healthy diet and lifestyle in getting pregnant. Being attentive to small health situations can increase your chances to conceive. Unhealthy eating habits, overweight, stress, smoking and drinking alcohol can drastically decrease your chances to conceive.
Another common mistake is regarding consultation with specialist. Some women are lucky enough to conceive quickly but if you are less than 35 years old then it is normal to take as long as one year to get pregnant. If you are taking long to conceive then it is wise to consult your doctor, especially if you have any underlying health problem.
Another common mistake is to have sex only on the ovulation day. The problem with this approach is that you may miscalculate your ovulation date and end up losing chance of getting pregnant for a month.
Some couples are obsessed about the best sexual position to conceive. Experts suggest that as soon as men ejaculates majority of sperms immediately goes towards women’s egg. The left over liquid only have few sperms. There is nothing wrong in experimenting with sex position so that you lose minimum sperm but don’t stress yourself about it.

इस पोस्ट को एक आन्दोलन बना दीजिये

2011-08-19T20:32:00.000-07:00

“ दर्द होता रहा छटपटाते रहे, आईने॒से सदा चोट खाते रहे, वो वतन बेचकर मुस्कुराते रहे

हम वतन के लिए॒सिर कटाते रहे ”

280 लाख करोड़ का सवाल है ...

भारतीय गरीब है लेकिन भारत देश कभी गरीब नहीं रहा"* ये कहना है स्विस बैंक के डाइरेक्टर का. स्विस बैंक के डाइरेक्टर ने यह भी कहा है कि भारत का लगभग 280 लाख करोड़ रुपये उनके स्विस बैंक में जमा है. ये रकम इतनी है कि भारत का आने वाले 30 सालों का बजट बिना टैक्स के बनाया जा सकता है.

या यूँ कहें कि 60 करोड़ रोजगार के अवसर दिए जा सकते है. या यूँ भी कह सकते है कि भारत के किसी भी गाँव से दिल्ली तक 4 लेन रोड बनाया जा सकता है.

ऐसा भी कह सकते है कि 500 से ज्यादा सामाजिक प्रोजेक्ट पूर्ण किये जा सकते है. ये रकम इतनी ज्यादा है कि अगर हर भारतीय को 2000 रुपये हर महीने भी दिए जाये तो 60 साल तक ख़त्म ना हो. यानी भारत को किसी वर्ल्ड बैंक से लोन लेने कि कोई जरुरत नहीं है. जरा सोचिये ... हमारे भ्रष्ट राजनेताओं और नोकरशाहों ने कैसे देश को लूटा है और ये लूट का सिलसिला अभी तक 2011 तक जारी है.

इस सिलसिले को अब रोकना बहुत ज्यादा जरूरी हो गया है. अंग्रेजो ने हमारे भारत पर करीब 200 सालो तक राज करके करीब 1 लाख करोड़ रुपये लूटा.

मगर आजादी के केवल 64 सालों में हमारे Hkz’Vkpkfj;ksa ने 280 लाख करोड़ लूटा है. एक तरफ 200 साल में 1 लाख करोड़ है और दूसरी तरफ केवल 64 सालों में 280 लाख करोड़ है. यानि हर साल लगभग 4.37 लाख करोड़, या हर महीने करीब 36 हजार करोड़ भारतीय मुद्रा स्विस बैंक में इन भ्रष्ट लोगों द्वारा जमा करवाई गई है.

भारत को किसी वर्ल्ड बैंक के लोन की कोई दरकार नहीं है. सोचो की कितना पैसा हमारे भ्रष्ट राजनेताओं और उच्च अधिकारीयों ने ब्लाक करके रखा हुआ है.

हमे भ्रस्ट राजनेताओं और भ्रष्ट अधिकारीयों के खिलाफ जाने का पूर्ण अधिकार है.हाल ही में हुवे घोटालों का आप सभी को पता ही है - CWG घोटाला, २ जी स्पेक्ट्रुम घोटाला , आदर्श होउसिंग घोटाला ... और ना जाने कौन कौन से घोटाले अभी उजागर होने वाले है ........

Summary of All scams of India : Rs. 910603234300000/-

See how Lokpal Bill can curb the politicians, Circulate it to create awareness

Existing System System Proposed by civil society No politician or senior officer ever goes to jail despite huge evidence because Anti Corruption Branch (ACB) and CBI directly come under the government. Before starting investigation or initiating prosecution in any case, they have to take permission from the same bosses, against whom the case has to be investigated. Lokpal at centre and Lokayukta at state level will be independent bodies.

ACB and CBI will be merged into these bodies. They will have power to initiate investigations and prosecution against any officer or politician without needing anyone’s permission. Investigation should be completed within 1 year and trial to get over in next 1 year. Within two years, the corrupt should go to jail. No corrupt officer is dismissed from the job because Central Vigilance Commission, which is supposed to dismiss corrupt officers, is only an advisory body. Whenever it advises government to dismiss any senior corrupt officer, its advice is never implemented.

Lokpal and Lokayukta will have complete powers to order dismissal of a corrupt officer. CVC and all departmental vigilance will be merged into Lokpal and state vigilance will be merged into Lokayukta. No action is taken against corrupt judges because permission is required from the Chief Justice of India to even register an FIR against corrupt judges. Lokpal & Lokayukta shall have powers to investigate and prosecute any judge without needing anyone’s permission. Nowhere to go - People expose corruption but no action is taken on their complaints. Lokpal & Lokayukta will have to enquire into and hear every complaint.

There is so much corruption within CBI and vigilance departments. Their functioning is so secret that it encourages corruption within these agencies. All investigations in Lokpal & Lokayukta shall be transparent. After completion of investigation, all case records shall be open to public. Complaint against any staff of Lokpal & Lokayukta shall be enquired and punishment announced within two months.

Weak and corrupt people are appointed as heads of anti-corruption agencies. Politicians will have absolutely no say in selections of Chairperson and members of Lokpal & Lokayukta. Selections will take place through a transparent and public participatory process. Citizens face harassment in government offices.

Sometimes they are forced to pay bribes. One can only complaint to senior officers. No action is taken on complaints because senior officers also get their cut. Lokpal & Lokayukta will get public grievances resolved in time bound manner, impose a penalty of Rs 250 per day of delay to be deducted from the salary of guilty officer and award that amount as compensation to the aggrieved citizen.

Nothing in law to recover ill gotten wealth. A corrupt person can come out of jail and enjoy that money. Loss caused to the government due to corruption will be recovered from all accused. Small punishment for corruption- Punishment for corruption is minimum 6 months and maximum 7 years.

Enhanced punishment - The punishment would be minimum 5 years and maximum of life imprisonment. Dear All, Please go through the details carefully & try to be part of this mission against corruption.

Things to know about Anna Hazare and Lok pal Bill-:

1.Who is Anna Hazare?
An ex-army man(Unmarried). Fought 1965 Indo-Pak War.
2.What's so special about him?
He built a village Ralegaon Siddhi in Ahamad Nagar district, Maharashtra
3.This village is a self-sustained model village. Energy is produced in the village itself from solar power, biofuel and wind mills. In 1975, it used to be a poverty clad village.

Now it is one of the richest village in India. It has become a model for self-sustained, eco-friendly & harmonic village.

4.This guy, Anna Hazare was awarded Padma Bhushan and is a known figure for his social activities.

5.He is supporting a cause, the amendment of a law to curb corruption in India.
6. How that can be possible?

He is advocating for a Bill, The Lok Pal Bill (The Citizen Ombudsman Bill), that will form an autonomous authority who will make politicians (ministers), bureaucrats (IAS/IPS) accountable for their deeds.

7. It's an entirely new thing right..?

In 1972, the bill was proposed by then Law minister Mr. Shanti Bhushan. Since then it has been neglected by the politicians and some are trying to change the bill to suit their theft (corruption).

8. Oh.. He is going on a hunger strike for that whole thing of passing a Bill ! How can that be possible in such a short span of time?

The first thing he is asking for is: the govt should come forward and announce that the bill is going to be passed.

Next, they make a joint committee to DRAFT the LOK PAL BILL. 50% government participation and 50% public participation. Bcoz u can't trust the govt entirely for making such a bill which does not suit them.

9.What will happen when this bill is passed?

A LokPal will be appointed at the centre. He will have an autonomous charge, say like the Election Commission of India. In each and every state, Lokayukta will be appointed. The job is to bring all alleged party to trial in case of corruptions within 1 year.

Within 2 years, the guilty will be punished. Pass this on n show ur support..Spread it like fire; Our Nation needs us... Please Contribute... This is not just a forward, it’s the future of our Nation.

आप लोग जोक्स फॉरवर्ड करते ही हो. इसे भी इतना फॉरवर्ड करो की पूरा भारत इसे पढ़े ... और एक आन्दोलन बन जाये

I M INDIA...

2011-08-18T00:02:00.001-07:00

I make it Hard with my Voice.
I make it Richer with my Music.
I make it Incredible with my History.
I make it Magical with my Colours.
I make it Stronger with my Heart.
I make it Eternal with my Soul.
I make it Shine with all my Pride.
I M INDIA SHINING...

दस रास्ते सुखी और दु:खी होने के...

2011-08-16T00:42:00.000-07:00

सुखी होने के दस रास्ते

********************

व्यावहारिक बनो |
बहुत कम बोलो |
पहले लिखो बाद में दो |
सोचो फिर बोलो |
काम में सदैव व्यस्त रहो |
सबको सम्मान से बुलाओ |
अपनी गलती स्वीकार करो |
सबकी राय लेकर निर्णय करो |
कभी-कभी न बोलना भी सीखो |
जरूरत न हो तो उसकी खरीद न करो |

दु:खी रहने के दस रास्ते

***********************

बिना मांगे सलाह देना |
बिना कारण झूठ बोलना |
किसी पे विशवास न करना |
किसी के लिए कुछ न करना |
लेन-देन का हिसाब न रखना |
हमेशा स्वयं के लिए सोचना |
भुत काल के सुख को याद करना |
कोई भी काम समय से न करना |
स्वयं की बात को सत्य बताना |
देरी से सोना,देरी से उठना |

Ten Commandments for Peace of Mind

2011-07-12T01:18:00.000-07:00

Peace of mind is the most sought after 'commodity' in human life. It appears that most of us are in a state of perpetual restlessness. On analyzing the causes of this restlessness, I have ventured to find for myself ten solutions that need to be followed religiously if we are serious about achieving perfect peace of mind.

1. Do not interfere in others' business

Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic, and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction.This kind of attitude on our part denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God, for God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because they are prompted to do so by the Divine within them. There is God to look after everything. Why are you bothered? Mind your own business and you will have your peace.

2. Forget and Forgive

This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often nurture ill feeling inside our heart for the person who insults or harms us. We forget that the insult or injury was done to us once but by nourishing the grievance we go on excavating the wound forever. Therefore it is essential that we cultivate the art of forgiving and forgetting. Believe in the justice of God and the doctrine of Karma. Let Him judge the act of the one who insulted you. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forget, forgive, and march on.

3. Do not crave for recognition

This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motive. They may praise you today because you are rich and have power but no sooner you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and start criticizing you.Moreover, no one is perfect. Then why do you value the words of praise of another mortal like you? Why do you crave for recognition? Believe in yourself. People's praises do not last long. Do your duties ethically and sincerely and leave the rest to God

4. Do not be jealous

We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know you work harder than your colleagues in the office but they get promotions, you do not. You started a business several years ago but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. Should you be jealous? No, remember everybody's life is shaped by his previous Karma that has now become his destiny. If you are destined to be rich, not all the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere, but will only give you restlessness.

5. Change yourself according to the environment

If you try to change the environment single handedly, the chances are you may fail. Instead, change yourself to suit the environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has remained unfriendly for you, will mysteriously appear to be congenial and harmonious.

6. Endure what cannot be cured

This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations and accidents that are beyond our control. We must learn to endure them cheerfully thinking, "God will it so, so be it". God's logic is beyond our comprehension. Believe it and you will gain in patience, in inner strength, in will power.

7. Do not bite more than you can chew

This maxim should be always remembered. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable to carry out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. Spend your free time on prayers, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind, which make you restless. Fewer the thoughts, greater is the peace of mind.

8. Meditate regularly

Meditation makes the mind thoughtless. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour every day, you will tend to become calm during the remaining twenty-three and a half hours. Your mind will not be disturbed as much as before. This will increase your efficiency and you will turn out more work in less time.

9. Never leave the mind vacant

An empty mind is devil's workshop. All evil deeds start in the mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. You must decide what you value more - money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even if you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name (japa).

10. Do not procrastinate and never regret

Do not waste time in wondering "should I or shouldn't I?" Days, weeks, months and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Always remember God has His own plan too. Value your time and do things. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can rectify your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET! Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Take it as the will of God. You do not have the power to alter the course of God's will. Why cry?
--

PAINTINGS

2011-07-11T01:34:00.001-07:00

HARD TO BELIEVE THESE ARE PAINTINGS!!!!!!!

Water Bridge in Germany

2011-07-11T01:26:00.001-07:00

EVER SEEN A WATER BRIDGE?

Water Bridge in Germany... What a feat!
Six years, 500 million euros, 918 meters long.......now this is engineering!This is a channel-bridge over the River Elbe and joins the former East and
West Germany, as part of the unification project. It is located in the city
of Magdeburg, near Berlin.
The photo was taken on the day of inauguration.

Water Bridge Germany

Taking six years to build and costing around half a billion euros, the massive undertaking will connect Berlin's inland harbor with the ports along the Rhine river. At the center of the project is Europe's longest water bridge measuring in just shy of a kilometer at 918 meters. The huge tub to transport ships over the Elbe took 24,000 metric tons of steel and 68,000 cubic meters of concrete to build.

The water bridge will enable river barges to avoid a lengthy and sometimes unreliable passage along the Elbe. Shipping can often come to a halt on the stretch if the river's water mark falls to unacceptably low levels.

Tips For How to Release Anger...

2011-07-09T02:00:00.000-07:00

Have you ever wanted to tear something up just because you're really mad? Can you stop yourself from punching a hole in the wall? Sometimes you just can't hold your anger inside yourself and you just have to take it out on something. Soon after though, you get into trouble for it, or might injure yourself.

Here are some tips for releasing it more productively:
Try meditating. Do this every day to calm your nerves and you won't get so angry to begin with. Meditating calms the mind and helps you with your problems. You may be able to think more clearly too. Sometimes meditating can make you emotionless for the rest of the day. It removes a lot of stress and gives you a better outlook on the world.
2
Try sleeping. Sleep relaxes you and get rid of tension. It's so effective that you may end up waking without noticing you were angry.
3
Clinch up your hand. Don't make it in the shape of a fist; rather, try bending your fingers instead of your whole hand to release anger. If you put your hand into a fist, then you'll set yourself to hurt someone by punching them. That may get you into trouble. Some people get so mad that they sue and look at just how long that trouble will last!
4
Get active. Instead of taking it out on people or yourself, take it out on your bike or exercising. Not only is it good for your anger outlet but it is also good for for health.
5
Get a stress ball. Squeeze this to make anger release more fun! You can squeeze these balls a lot; pop it into your bag or pocket and squeeze it as you walk, catch the bus, sit at your desk or in front of the TV. It is just a creative way to do step 3.
6
Take deep breaths. It always calms nerves down. It is just a small meditation that releases a little stress at a time. It doesn't have as much effect as real meditation does but it does buy you calm-down time.
7
See a therapist. A therapist can help you work out the underlying feelings and motivations behind your anger. This is especially helpful if your feelings are messy, fuzzy and unclear to you but you just feel a huge ball of anger before you. Don't get so angry that you hurt the therapist physically though. If you seriously think this might be an issue, forewarn the therapist who will ensure someone else is in the room with you or suggest alternatives.
8
Start going to anger management class. Such a class can help you more than a therapist can and may be best done in conjunction with therapy.These classes are very important if your anger happens to be really serious, unless you want to deal with your problems for the rest of your life.
9
Count backwards from 10 to 1, very slowly.
10
Say the ABC'S backward.
11
Find the funniest thing you can (youtube has a lot of hilarious videos). Laughing may not be what you want to do when mad but it can really help if you open yourself up to it.
12
Try and listen to music or go over to your friend's house and talk about your issues or you can do what you love doing (eg. playing video games, anime, facebookin-ing, etc...)
13
Try and go to sleep, walk the dog, exercise, do your homework, watch tv, etc...
14
Don't give the people who may have made you angry the attention they don't deserve, try not to talk to them as much and then they will be the losers, not you.
15
Try writing in a journal about your anger and releve all the stress you have and make the journal privite so you can say what ever you want and try not to show anyone your journal, make it personal about what ever your angry about.

How women can manage their emotions at workplace

2011-07-09T01:30:00.000-07:00

Every day you wake up and your day kick starts with different emotions. We all experience emotions every moment, but how good are we in managing it? How do we deal with anger, hurt, disappointment, frustration, fear and anxiety?, especially women at workplace. Emotions are like a double-edged sword for women and leveraging it to improve their performance in office is the biggest challenge that women face today.

It is said that when men get emotional, they are "passionate" but when women get emotional in workplace, the adjective switches gears from "passionate" to "out of control". Emotional Intelligence is the in thing today in a workplace. EI is defined as the capacity to effectively perceive, express, understand, and handle your emotions and the emotions of others in a positive and productive manner. People who possess a high EI are more successful in relationships and are usually viewed as more effective leaders. But this does not mean that that woman are more emotional than men on the job. Women may be more comfortable expressing those emotions, since they live in a society that encourages women to be the feelers and men the thinkers and doers. So how do you deal with your emotions at workplace is the billion dollar question? Here a few tips:

Self Awareness:

Emotions are driven by various factors; you will have to be self aware when you are going through one. Being conscious about what you speak and how you are reacting becomes very i

mportant in a workplace. It is like a default thing in your system. You raise your voice against someone; sulked away as someone said something really nasty to you or rather you might have not said anything at all because you could not find the words. Conflicts are like one of the offers you get in a package at a workplace and if you are not skilled enough to manage your own emotions, it's even harder to handle it when others are emotional in your presence.
Identify what emotion it is:

To gain control over your emotions, you need to first identify what kind of emotion you are going through which help you shift your focus from the current situation, wi

ll pause your thinking and will help your respond back in a very effective way.

You don't have to tolerate other people's bad behavior:

You need to ask people how you want to be treated. If the way they approach you is not right then the best way would be to speak to them

and let them know that that they cannot take you for granted and speak what they want. This is known as having personal boundaries and it's a way of letting people know what you are willing to tolerate in your presence. If you don't tell them, they will continue to treat you in whatever way they like. You need to speak your truth.

Top 5 traits of an Efficient Manager

2011-07-07T23:58:00.000-07:00

n today's business world, an efficient manager can be rarely found. An efficient manager is the one who helps to run a business or an organization smoothly and effectively. He is like a captain of the ship who is responsible for the proper guidance of the other team members.

The following are the top five traits of an efficient manager.
Communicates Consistently, Clearly, Concisely
An efficient manager should know the art of proper communication. A manager without proper communication skill communicates too infrequently. Therefo

re they fail to develop confidence between the team members. An efficient manager communicates regularly, clearly and concisely therefore can give better direction to the team members or in finding a solution to a problem.
Needs to have a sense of humor
An efficient manager should know the art of being humoristic. A bit of laughter or wit can take him to a long way. Although controlling the work of a business or an o

rganization is a serious task one cannot be an efficient leader without having good sense of humor.
Cool Under Pressure
n a business organization projects are demanded to be delivered on time and under budget without major problems or obstacle. But projects do have problems as everything arou

nd does not work perfectly. Efficient managers consider the major problems interesting. They keep the problems aside and coolly tackle the problems as a great opportunity to prove their managing skills.
Truly Humble

This is one of the most important characteristic of an efficient manager. Manager who are truly humble with a good character influence people to work with them. Nobody wants to wo

rk with a selfish or a self obsessed person .

Useful Tips For Newly Married Couples

2011-07-07T23:47:00.000-07:00

It becomes very essential for newly married couples to keep the romance alive in their relationship. The changes that take place after marriage can sometimes lead to problems if not handled with care.

Marriage is the beginning of a new life and a new relation altogether. It's not always a bed of roses as it seems to be. For the starters you will have to go through a lot of adjustments and compromises along with getting unconditional love from your spouse.

To keep the relationship alive and full of romanticism some tips can work wonders for you!

The strongest bond can be created through romance. A candle light dinner or a romantic getaway will definitely help all you newly married couples out there!

Keep a balanced sense of humor that will help you come out of any kind of lugubrious situation and lighten up your partner's mood. Have a positive outlook towards all kinds of situation and you'll win half the race.

Respect for each other as well as for the relationship is very significant. Admiring your spouse's actions is very important and lack of which acts like slow poison affecting your relation and killing it softly.

Try and give some space to your better half. Let the air come into your relationship that will help it flourish and grow stronger.

Authority and power are two things that generally come in between many relationships especially among newly weds. Don't behave like opponents and share the joy of companionship. Just let go some things that you don't like about your partner.

Honesty is the best policy is any kind of relationship and so it is for newly married couples. Do not run away from your problems, instead face them. Ignoring them will only lead to serious issues in the relationship.

Create equilibrium between receiving and giving love. Make sure its not just one sided whether it's give or take.

Top 10: Simple Ways To Impress A Woman

2011-07-06T01:45:00.000-07:00

Look Her In The Eye

It can be tempting to look a beautiful woman up and down, and the more beautiful she is, the harder it is to concentrate on theconversation. Just remember, if she catches you staring at her chest when she’s telling you how much her mom means to her, you’ll look like a creep.

Be Well Groomed

Scraggly facial hair styles and even a hint of body odor will kill your chances with women. Women want their men to be well groomed. They want them to look and smell good all the time. That doesn’t mean you necessarily have to be clean-shaven, but any facial hair you do have should be well maintained. Think about it: You judge them based on the way they look. Why wouldn’t they do the same with you?

Socialize With Her Friends

When deciding whether or not to ask a woman out on a date, you probably evaluate her personality and her looks, among other things like her sense of humor and her intelligence. Well, women do those things too, but they also think about our potential as partners. And one of the things that speaks to our potential is our ability to fit into her social network. Women are attracted to likable, social, charming men, the kind of guys their friends and families will love. So, engage in conversation with her friends even as you’re working your magic on her. Impress them and you’ll impress her. Just make sure it’s clear that she’s the one you’re interested in.

Ignore Your Phone

Nothing says, “You’re not that important....” like taking a call from someone else or checking a text in the middle of a conversation. That’s why ignoring your phone is one of our top 10 simple ways to impress women. The culture of texting has gotten way out of hand. Too many men think it’s perfectly acceptable to take a phone call or fire off an e-mail while you’re on a date or in the middle of a conversation. Well, we have news for you: It’s uncivil. When you’re talking to a woman, let her see you silence your phone or turn it off completely -- show her she has your undivided attention.

Open Doors

Another entry on our list of the top 10 simple ways to impress women: Open the door for her. Opening the door for a woman is a classic gentlemanly gesture. The otherwise admirable push for gender equality has largely eliminated acts of chivalry like this one. Do your part to bring chivalry back by opening the door for her

Compliment The Way She Looks

So here’s the thing: you want to give her a compliment, but you want it to seem sincere. Thus, you need something a little more original than, “You have incredible eyes.” Give this a shot: Compliment the way she looks in her outfit. Say something like, “You look great in that dress.” It’s a great way of telling her she looks hot without rerunning the same old compliment and it also communicates that you’re attracted to her in a way that, “Cool jacket!” does not.

Ask For Advice

Whether you’re apartment-hunting or trying to set your buddy up on a blind date, women are impressed when you ask them for advice. It shows her that you value other people’s opinions -- in particular, her opinion. Be careful not to come off as clueless here, though; you don’t want to act like you know nothing. You also don’t want to put her on the spot or make her feel uncomfortable. When asking for advice, get her perspective on a limited set of options. For example, does she think you should move into a townhouse or a loft? This kind of question allows her to easily express an opinion, and hopefully sparks a more extensive conversation.

Compliment Her Positivity

Telling a woman she gives off a “happy” vibe will make her feel good. That’s the vibe most people want to give off all the time. It also allows you to then ask her about the things in her life that make her so happy, which will make her feel even better, positive feelings that she’ll ultimately associate with talking to you. This kind of a comment centering on positivity is another one of our top 10 simple ways to impress women.

Ask Her Questions

When you’re getting to know a woman you should do your best to make her comfortable. That means steering a conversation toward a subject she’s comfortable talking about -- like her. Just about every woman likes to talk about herself. It’s a subject on which she has a lot of expertise, after all. Asking her questions about her past and her favorite things will allow her to open up and feel comfortable, while simultaneously showing her that you’re interested in more than just her looks

Help Her With Her Coat

If you’re trying to come up with simple ways to impress women, you might think about the kinds of things your grandfather used to do. Women love old-school displays of chivalry. Helping her put on her coat is a great example. It’s a kind, courteous act that’s not so common anymore. That’s why it will help you stand out. It’s also a good way to increase her comfort level with you as it allows you to get close to her without getting too close.

Dental Care Tips for Kids

2011-07-06T01:39:00.000-07:00

Teens are identified for eating sweet snacks, fast foods and meals on-the-run. But these eating habits are the culprits of tooth decay and dental troubles. Make sure your children choose their foods wisely. When probable, foods like sugary snacks and sweet sticky foods need to be eaten at meal times when other foods assist neutralize their damaging effects. When your children do snack, encourage them to eat foods that are great for their teeth like nuts, popcorn, cheese, raw vegetables, plain yogurt, and sugarless gum or candy. And remind them to brush, or at least rinse, following every single meal.Babies who are teething typically display an insatiable urge to chew on things to soothe the irritation in their gums.

You can give your baby teething rings, which are specially produced to indulge this urge. Refrigerating the rings to make them quite cold will aid soothe sore gums much better.Pick fluoride toothpaste and use a pea-sized amount on the toothbrush right after every meal and just before bed. If the child swallows the toothpaste this tiny quantity need to not hurt him.Sweet candy plays a component in tooth decay. The greatest way to maintain smiling is utilizing fluoride toothpastes. Aid young children develop a teeth brushing routine, limiting candy bars and difficult candy intake throughout the day, and never after brushing their teeth at bedtime to avoid microorganisms working on their mouth by night.The very best way to make sure that your child does not get cavities or gingivitis is to instill proper oral habits early. Here are 3 guidelines and tricks to make the job of teeth brushing a small much more fun and a lot much less taxing.The second critical thing to remember with a newborn baby is to NOT put them to bed with a bottle. It is Much easier in no way to commence this poor habit than it is to stop it when the baby teeth start off coming in. Letting a baby sleep with a bottle – or nurse continuously, if breast-feeding – can cause severe dental cavities, called “Early Childhood Cavities.” It is essential to note that while many experts agree that breast-feeding is healthier for your baby, breast milk can trigger Early Childhood Cavities just as entire milk or formula can.Deciding on the right type of toothbrush is extremely critical for the over all well being of your teeth. A brush with M-shaped bristles is an ideal one. Always go in for soft bristles. Your teeth are constituted of two main elements. They are calcium and phosphorus. These elements aid in hardening your teeth and also in the formation of teeth in children. Therefore your diet plan must be planned in such a manner that you get very a very good amount of both these elements.Finding a house remedy for teeth whitening that works best could have you feeling like a glass slipper in search of the right foot. Not every property remedy for teeth whitening is going to be successful some are a lot more folklore than factual. A basic process or trial and elimination might be in order.Apple cider and white vinegar are also utilized in a few home remedy recipes for teeth whitening. Wood ash is identified for being a natural bleaching additive, but too significantly usage can cause the enamel of your teeth to wear away. And, like the vinegar, has a rather bitter taste.

Home Remedies for Teeth Whitening

1. Application of a paste of lemon juice and salt in the yellowish tint of the teeth is a wonderful way of eliminating that dull color of the teeth

2. Rubbing the inner white part of an orange peel in the bleached teeth gives a lovely white shine.

3. Regular use of paste of bi-carbonate of soda with water take away the surface stain from the teeth

4. Dried and powdered Bay leaves combined with dried orange peel also acts as an outstanding whitener

5. Hydrogen peroxide is probably the most ordinary and popular natural lightening agent. It can be combined with lemon juice, baking soda, baking powder, or roughly a dozen other ingredients. Dissimilar recipes will call for different amounts of peroxide

6. Lemon juice by itself may not be the most excellent home remedy for teeth whitening as the acidity can weaken teeth. Amazingly enough, strawberries fall into the same acidic category. They are normal whiteners; simply rub them straightly on your teeth or mash into a paste. But use both sparingly

7. Apple cider and white vinegar are also used in a some home remedy recipes for teeth whitening. Wood ash is known for being a natural bleaching preservative, but too much usage can cause the enamel of your teeth to wear away. And, like the vinegar, has a quite bitter taste.

Top 5 Essential Health Care Tips for Children

2011-07-06T01:31:00.000-07:00

Kids of all ages must be given a special education to learn about their health. It’s important that parents help them to learn about healthy habits and living and their importance. The top 5 essential health care tips for children which you can follow to ensure healthy living for your children are discussed in this article.

Top 5 Essential Health care tips for children

1. Healthy breakfast: Insist on serving the breakfast for your kids which must be heavy and well balanced. Since it is the most important andessential meal of the day. Thus, you should include most of the essentialsupplements that your kid needs for the day. Some of the essentialsupplements are listed below.

Calcium rich foods: Include calcium rich foods such as milk, soy milk, yogurt, etc in your child’s diet as they help in bone development. Deficiency of calcium can lead to weakness in knock knees, bones, sleep disorders, etc.
Protein rich foods: Include protein rich foods such as eggs, chicken, etc in your child’s diet as they help in muscle growth. However, the protein intake must be in required quantity, because excess intake of protein can cause kidney problems.
Whole grains and green vegetables: Include lots of whole grains and green vegetables in your child’s diet. They help build stronger immune system and blood vessels and lowers the risk of falling prey to diseases and infections.
Iron rich foods: Include iron rich foods (all green leafy vegetables) in your child’s diet as it the main component of blood. Deficiency of iron leads to anemia which can cause other health problems and illness which is very common among kids.

2. Exercises and activities: Include daily outdoor activities and exercises and minimize the time for television and video games. This helps to keep your child’s body fit and at the same time reduces the risk of obesity. Outdoor activities and exercise are essential as they help in mental growth of kids, build muscles and keep them fit.

3. Avoid soft drinks and sodas: It is better to avoid these drinks as they contain small amounts of caffeine and kids may get addicted to it.

4. Good hygiene: In addition to healthy food habits, kids need to learn about good hygiene and ensure that they make it a habit. A good hygiene includes washing hands with soap and water after using restrooms, after coming from outside, before and after a meal, avoid touching the public restrooms and use sanitizer after using pubic restrooms, etc.

5. Proper night’s sleep: This is very essential and a growing kid must have at least 9 hours of sleep daily. Lack of sleep causes lethargy, irritability, and disorientation in kids causing them lag behind in their performance.

Nose Injury First Aid & Treatment Tips

2011-07-03T23:48:00.000-07:00

A simple nosebleed is usually caused by a burst capillary near the opening on the inside of the nose. The larger the blood vessel, the more severe the bleeding. As with any bleeding point, to prevent further blood loos pressure is required at the injury site. Here, we are concerned with the floppy, fleshy bits of the face and once you have examined the extent of the blood flow by lifting the handkerchief, etc.., from the upper lip end, proceed as follow:

१. Using your thumb and forefinger, hold a clean pad against either side of the tip of the nose and pinch your fingers together.
2. Whenever possible, involve your casualty by letting them hold the pad in place. This will allow you to clean the person up.
3. Make sure that the head is tilted forward as swallowed blood cause visiting.
4. Apply pressure for some ten minutes by which time the clotting process should have started. If on examination there is still bleeding, continue pressure for a further ten minutes.
5. Should bleeding continue beyond half an hour, the casualty will have to attend
Hospital for more intensive treatment.In case of an injury on the bony part of the bridge of the nose,there may well be a fracture which can be identified by bruising and swelling in this case pressure must, of course, not be applied. Care must be taken to prevent any blood being swallowed;a person with a nose fracture can least afford to vomit as well. Removal to hospital is vital and, while waiting for the ambulance, take the following steps:
1. Do not pinch the nose since the injury is much higher up than the tip. In any case, it is very doubtful whether the casualty will permit you to touch any part of their face.
2. No one has died from a nosebleed yet, unless there was other evidence of a more sinister injury.
3. Tilt the casualty’s head forward, give them a large towel and ask them to hold it to their face. They will know by feel how near to the face the towel should be held.( a bowl for the blood to drip into is to be avoided as the casualty may think they have to fill it.)
4. Make sure that person remains stable and reassure them as much as possible until the experts arrive.

नकसीर...गर्मियों कि आम परेशानी

2011-07-03T23:05:00.000-07:00

गर्मियों के दौरान अधिकाँश बच्चों को नाक से खून आने की समस्या का सामना करना पड़ता है|दरअसल,नाक के अन्दर के पदार्थ सुखकर अन्दर चिपक जाते हैं और जब इस चिपके पदार्थ को हटाने या कुरेदने की कोशिश करता है,तो उसकी नाक के अन्दर की लाइनिंग भी छिल जाती है|इसलिए नाक से खून बहने लगता है|गर्मियों के मौसम में नाक के अन्दर के पदार्थ ज्यादा आसानी से सूखते व चिपकते हैं,इसलिए गर्मियों में यह समस्या और भी बढ़ जाती है|
नाक की एलर्जी से पीड़ित बच्चो, को नकसीर की समस्या ज्यादा प्रेषण करती है|एलर्जी के कारन नाक को नकसीर की समस्या ज्यादा प्रेषण करती है|एलर्जी के कारन नाक में बार बार खुजली होती है और खून का जमाव अधिक होता है|

उपाय:
नकसीर आने की स्थिति में कुछ जरूरी बातों पर अमल कर जल्द राहत पाई जा सकती है...

बच्चे को बैठा दें|
उसकी नाक को वह स्वयं या आप अंगूठे वह एक उंगली के बीच ५-१० मिनट दबाकर रखें|इस दौरान खून नही टपकना चाहिए|यदि आपके दबाने के बाद भी खून टपके तो नाक दबाने की जगह बदल दें|
इस दौरान बच्चे को मुंह से सांस लेने को कहें|
कई बार बच्चा नाक से भा खून थूकने के बजाये पी जाता है|इससे एक या दो बार उसे उलटी आ सकती है ,जिससे खून भी आ सकता है|इसमें घबराने की कोई बात नही|
नकसीर आने पर बच्चे को बेठे र्तेहने के लिए ही कहें,उसे लताएं नहीं|
नाक का नीचे का भाग ही दबाएँ|उपरी भाग की हड्डी दबाने का प्रयास न करें|
आमतौर पपांच-दस मिनट तक पकड़ने के बाद नकसीर रुक जाती है|

7 habits of unhappy people

2011-06-27T22:24:00.000-07:00

It’s only when we realise and acknowledge that we are each 100% responsible for our happiness that we start to ‘notice’ the things that we do that creates our unhappiness. Only when we fully accept responsibility for our own happiness will we start to eliminate the habits that sabotage our contentment and joy. They are habits that many of us have learned to justify (a habit in itself!) as we often don’t want to see and accept that they are the cause of our unhappiness. They are also habits that we sometimes want to see as ‘natural’ as they ‘seem’ to form the very fabric of our day-to-day relationships. They are the 7 habits of highly unhappy people.

Judging
Have you noticed when you judge another you lose your inner peace? And inner peace is the primary ingredient of authentic happiness. Not only do we learn to judge but close on the mental heals of our judgements often comes the sentence and the punishment! All together (judgment, sentence and punishment) they make up the package called ‘condemnation’ which is guaranteed happiness killer!

Criticising
When we criticise it means we are attacking and somewhere ‘in there’ is usually anger albeit in a milder form. And when you are angry you cannot be happy. Yes some of us do attempt to justify our attack by calling it ‘constructive criticism’ but if there is any anger present it’s more often revenge or punishment in disguise! Definitely not a happy habit but a common one all the same.

Complaining
It seems to be endemic in some cultures to complain. Complaining signals the presence of upsetness and therefore the absence of happiness. Whereas in ‘giving feedback’ and ‘making a request’ ensures there is no discontentment. Easy theory, but hard to practice, especially if we have been playing that old ‘complaining record’ all our life.

Blaming
Projecting blame onto someone else is not only a happiness killer but usually a strategy to avoid responsibility. It’s driven by the perfect combination of anger and fear and is therefore a painful cry that sounds like, “It’s all your fault”, but which, when decoded, really means, “I have just made my self very unhappy”!

Arguing
Trying to prove we are right, or attempting to make the other as right as us, is usually both a tense and grumpy affair. Neither side is happy in the process, and even if it seems one side has won, any happiness is short lived until the next opportunity to ‘be right’ is craved for and invoked! To argue is to tell the world that we prefer misery to merriment!

Competing
It’s not so easy to see why the habit of competing is an unhappy pastime. Most of us have assimilated the belief that competition is good, fun and even joyful.

But all we have to do is glance at the faces of long distance runners, tennis players and even snooker players and we will see 99% of the game is played in a state of abject suffering. Occasionally, in the middle of the game or the match, someone will let a little joy slip out, but it doesn’t last long. All competition contains fear by definition, which along with anger, are the sworn enemies of happiness.

Controlling
Attempting to make others dance to our tune is always an impossible task. Expecting the world to be and do as we would wish is an expectation too far. Both are demonstrations that we still believe others are responsible for our happiness. It is a belief by which the world runs. If the truth were realise and lived i.e. that we are each responsible for our own happiness, the world would be a very different planet on which to live. One day perhaps!

So there you have it. Only seven of many habits that we activate sometimes several times a day. In so doing we block the light of the sun of happiness from shinning through our life. Each habit is embedded in a culture in which it has become socially acceptable to think and act in such ways. And so it is that we unknowingly collude with each other to sustain our unhappiness. And as we do we gift the 7 habits of highly unhappy people to the next generation!

Question: Which of the above do you find yourself doing most frequently (rate each on a scale of 1 Low to 5 high)

Reflection: Why do you think we all learn to sustain our own unhappiness and not realise that we do so?

Action: Take ten minutes and decide what would be the positive equivalent of each of the above
LIFE IS CALLING. . . WHERE ARE YOU?

The Four Principles of Spirituality

2011-06-22T23:37:00.000-07:00

Case Dismissed & English Is A Phunny Language

2011-06-22T23:26:00.001-07:00

A young woman who was several months pregnant was sitting in a bus.

When she noticed a young man smiling at her, she began feeling humiliated on account of her condition.

She changed her seat and he seemed more amused.

She moved again and then on seeing him laughing more, she filed a court case on him.

In the court the man's defense was: 'When the lady boarded the bus, I couldn't help noticing she was pregnant. She sat under an advertisement,

which read 'Coming Soon - The unknown boon'..

I was even more amused when she then sat under a shaving cream advertisement, which read:

'William's stick..... did the trick'..

Then I could not control myself any longer, when on the third move she sat under an advertisement, which read:

'Dunlop Rubber would have prevented this accident'..

The case was dismissed. The judge fell off his chair laughing..!

English Is A Phunny Language

************************************************************

Delivery according to Corporate World

1) Project Manager is a person who thinks nine women can deliver a baby in one month.

2) Developer is a person who thinks it will take 18 months to deliver a baby.

3) Onsite Coordinator is one who thinks single woman can deliver nine babies in one month.

4) Client is the one who doesn't know why he wants a baby.

5) Marketing Manager is a person who thinks he can deliver a baby even if no man and woman are available.

6) Resource Optimization Team thinks they don't need a man or woman; They'll produce a child with zero resources.

7) Documentation Team thinks they don't care whether the child is delivered, they'll just document 9 months.

8) Quality Auditor is the person who is never happy with the PROCESS to produce a baby.

And lastly...

9) Tester is a person who always tells his wife that this is not the right baby.

Purrfect Resume (Don't Miss the Climax

2011-06-22T22:12:00.000-07:00

OUR NEW SECRETARY'S RESUME

Deer Sir,

I waunt to apply for the secritary job what I saw in the paper. I can Type real quik wit one finggar and do sum a counting.

I think I am good on the phone and no I am a pepole person, Pepole really seam to respond to me belly well.

I'm lookin for a Jobb as a secritary but it musent be to complicaited.

I no my spelling is not to good but find that I Offen can get a job thru my persinalety. My salerery is open so we can discus wat you want to pay me and wat you think that I am werth,

I can start imeditely. Thank you in advanse fore yore anser. . . hopifuly Yore best aplicant so farr.

Sinseerly,
Peggy May Starlings

PS : Because my resimay is a bit short - below is a pickture of me taken at my last jobb.

*
*

Employer's reply......

Dear Peggy,

It's OK honey, we've got spell check.....

Welcome onboard!!

Are you a good parent?

2011-06-22T03:06:00.000-07:00

his is a powerful message in our modern society………

One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company. He passed the first interview. The director did the last interview, and was to make the last decision. The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score. The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the youth answered "none". The director asked, "Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.”
The director asked, “Where did your mother work?" The youth answered, "My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.
The director asked, “Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?" The youth answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.”
The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.”
The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.
The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.
This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.
That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office.
The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked: “Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"
The youth answered, “I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes”.
The Director asked, “please tell me your feelings."
The youth said, “Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not be the successful me today. Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done. Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.”
The director said, “This is what I am looking for to be my manager.”
“I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.”
A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?
You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.
You would have forwarded many mails to many and many of them would have back mailed you too...but try and forward this story to as many as possible...this may change somebody's fate.....

Psychology of marital love

2011-06-22T03:03:00.000-07:00

During a seminar, a woman asked a common question.
She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"
I noticed that there was a man sitting next to her so I said,
"It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind..
Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse.
You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.
You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love...
Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression.
It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens)
and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage
you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage..
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?"
And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfilment.
Extramarital fulfilment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious.
But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because .. listen carefully to this

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON
IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience.. It'll NEVER just happen to you.
You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out.
That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love."
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM.
You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery.
There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship
WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect.
If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... You can "make" love.
Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling.

"No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE.
No one stays in love by chance, it is by CHOICE.”

THE ART OF GIVING

2011-06-22T02:14:00.000-07:00

In these days of a daily scam -
food for thought-
Learn the "Art of Giving"

The Art of Giving

"Rivers do not drink their own water, nor do tree eat their own fruit, nor do rain clouds eat the grains reared by them. The wealth of the noble is used solely for the benefit of others!
Even after accepting that giving is good and that one must learn to give, several questions need to be answered.
The first question is:
When should one give?
We all know the famous incident from Mahabharat.
Yudhisthir asks a beggar seeking alms to come the next day. On this, Bhim rejoices that Yudhisthir his brother, has conquered death! For he is sure that he will be around the next day to give. Yudhisthir gets the message.
One does not know really whether one will be there tomorrow to give!
The time to give therefore is now.
The next question is:
'How much to give?'

One recalls the famous incident from history.
Rana Pratap was reeling after defeat from the Moghals. He had lost his army, he had lost his wealth, and most important, he had lost hope, his will to fight. At that time, in his darkest hour, his erstwhile minister, Bhamasha, came seeking him and placed his entire fortune at the disposal of Rana Pratap. With this, Rana Pratap raised an army and lived to fight another day.
The answer to this question how much to give is:
"Give as much as one can!

The next question is:
'What to give?'
It is not only money that can be given away. It could be a flower or even a smile.

It is not how much one gives but how one gives that really matters. When you give a smile to a stranger that may be the only good thing received by him in days and weeks!

"You can give anything but you must give with all your heart!"
One also needs answer to this question whom to give?
Many times we avoid giving by finding fault with the person who is seeking. However, being judgmental and rejecting a person on the presumption that he may not be the most deserving is not justified.
“Give without being judgmental!"

Next we have to answer:
'How to give?'
Coming to the manner of giving, one has to ensure that the receiver does not feel humiliated, nor the giver feels proud by giving.

In giving, follow the advice 'Let not your left hand know what your right hand gives? Charity without publicity and fanfare is the highest form of charity.'
'Give quietly!'

While giving, let not the recipient feel small or humiliated. After all, what we give never really belonged to us. We come to this world with nothing and will go with nothing. The thing gifted was only with us for a temporary period. Why then take pride in giving away something which really did not belong to us?
Give with grace and with a feeling of gratitude.

"What should one feel after giving?"
We all know the story of Eklavya. When Dronacharya asked him for his right thumb as "Guru Dakshina, he unhesitatingly cut off the thumb and gave it to Dronacharya.
There is a little known sequel to this story.
Eklavya was asked whether he ever regretted the act of giving away his thumb. He replied, and the reply has to be believed to be true, as it was asked to him when he was dying.

His reply was "Yes! I regretted this only once in my life. It was when Pandavas were coming in to kill Dronacharya who was broken hearted on the false news of death of his son, Ashwathama, and had stopped fighting. It was then that I regretted the loss of my thumb. If the thumb was there, no one could have dared hurt my Guru?

The message to us is clear.
Give and never regret giving!
And the last question is:
‘How much should we provide for our heirs?'
Ask yourself 'are we taking away from them the gift of work? - A source of happiness?
The answer is given by Warren Buffett:
"Leave your kids enough to do anything, but not enough to do nothing!"

I would conclude by saying:
Let us learn the Art of Giving,
and quoting the Saint Kabir:
"When the wealth in the house increases, when water fills a boat, throw them out with both hands!"
This is the wise thing to do!